Getting a girl to like you is both a science and an art. A science in the sense that certain methods of seduction have been passed down from one generation to another and seem to work fairly consistently. An art because after learning what works generally, you can add your spin to it and inject your personality to make you stand out from everyone else. 

In this article, we cover what you should tell a girl to convince her you like her, what you should not say, and some FAQs on having healthy conversations with your crush. 

How to talk to a girl you like

• Compliment her sincerely: The key to effective compliments is sincerity. You should mention something specific you appreciate about her.
• Express genuine interest: Ask her about herself, and her interests, and actively listen to what she shares. “Men don’t listen.” I’m sure you have heard those words from a woman before. The goal is not just to listen to show interest, it is to understand her so you can 
• Be straightforward: Don’t beat around the bush—let her know you like her and would like to spend more time together. Yep, no need to waste your time or hers. In my experience, the nice guy does finish last. 
• Use humour: Light-hearted jokes and playful banter can convey your interest in a fun and engaging way. This is a favorite of mine as I have found you can get away with almost anything if it’s cloaked in humor.
• Say something thoughtful: Show how attentive you are by sensing and reassuring her in ways others might fail to notice. Perhaps you noticed she only wears her hair in a particular way because she tries to hide a part of her face. You want to 
• Be confident: Confidence is attractive, so speak with assurance and maintain eye contact. You want to use words that convey conviction and assertiveness. Rather than saying “I think I like this…” or “You might be the most beautiful girl…” say “I like this..” or “I believe you are the most beautiful girl…”  
• Offer a sincere apology if you’ve made a mistake: Acknowledge and apologize if you’ve unintentionally done something that upset her.
• Share personal stories: Open up about yourself to create a deeper connection and let her see the real you. 
• Find common interests: Highlight shared hobbies or activities to bond over common ground.
• Invite her to join you: Extend invitations for activities or events to spend more time together.

 

What words attract a girl?

The words that can attract a girl are seductive, they are words that provoke feelings and not thought. 

• Expressing her effect on you: Telling her she’s breathtaking or sharing how she makes you speechless is a more unique compliment than using generic terms like beautiful. 
• Highlight her sensuality: Rather than say you like the way she speaks, you want to let her know there’s something sensual about how the words roll out from her lips or the way she stresses certain syllables. 
• Share your fascination: Express your enchantment, saying she possesses an irresistible charm that draws you in. Again, you have to have some conviction in the way you express this. Even if it is something as superficial as the texture of her skin or the softness of her palm, as long as you like it and find it attractive, you want to emphasize that like you can’t get enough of it. 
• Compliment her physical allure: Use words like “tempting,” “enticing,” or “provocative” to convey your attraction to her physical presence. It is a natural reaction to initiate and enjoy physical contact with a person you find attractive. Telling her how tempted you are to hug her and not let go is one way to express your attraction. 
• Highlight her sense of style: Acknowledge and appreciate her sensuous nature with words like “elegant,” “sexy,” or “classy.” 
• Compliment her captivating aura: Mention the mesmerizing vibe she exudes, describing it as “intoxicating” or “irresistible.”
• Express admiration for her allure: Use words like “bewitching” or “enchanting” to convey your admiration for her irresistible charm.
• Compliment her magnetic personality: Mention how her charisma and allure make her stand out, using words like “intense,” “refreshing,” or “unforgettable.” 
• Pay her more non-physical compliments: perhaps you want to show what you think about her by highlighting her non-physical attributes like her kindness, intelligence, humor, or feminine warmth.
• Point out a dark side: if you notice something dark about her that you appreciate, you want to let her know you caught it. Using words like “naughty,” “mysterious,” or pointing out she might be a tease could get you closer to getting her to open up even more 

What to say to a girl you like over text

Texting is tricky as many elements of communication like tone and body language are missing, so a lot can be lost in translation. If you wonder what to say to a girl you like over text, here are some ways you can approach it. 

• Start with a Friendly Greeting: Begin the conversation with a simple and warm greeting to set a positive tone. Or you can reference an ongoing joke/banter you share to begin the conversation.
• Reference a Shared Experience: Mention a recent shared experience or something you both enjoyed to create a connection.
• Express Genuine Interest: Ask about her day or inquire about something specific she’s mentioned before to show you’re attentive.
• Use Humor: Inject some light humor into the conversation to make it enjoyable and playful.
• Share Something Interesting: Share a snippet of an intriguing article, fact, or event based on her interests/hobbies to spark conversation.
• Plan a Casual Hangout: Suggest a casual activity or invite her to join you for coffee or a low-key event.
• Send a Compliment: Offer a sincere compliment about something you genuinely appreciate about her.
• Be Open About Your Feelings: If the moment is right, express your feelings in a straightforward yet respectful manner.
• Ask Open-Ended Questions: Pose questions that encourage more than a simple yes or no response, keeping the conversation flowing.
• End with a Positive Note: Wrap up the conversation on a positive note, expressing your enjoyment of the interaction.

What to say to a girl you like for the first time

It can be tricky to figure out what to say to a girl you just met, but we have compiled some of the best tips:

• Initiate with a Confident Greeting: Approach her confidently and greet her warmly to establish a positive tone. A simple “Hi” and “how are you” should suffice. 
• Express Genuine Interest: Ask about her interests, hobbies, or what she enjoys doing in her free time.
• Share a Light Compliment: Give a sincere compliment about something specific that caught your attention.
• Mention a Commonality: Bring up a shared interest or experience to create an immediate connection.
• Be Playful and Light-Hearted: Inject humor into the conversation to make it enjoyable and ease any initial tension.
• Ask About Her Day: Show genuine curiosity by asking how her day has been or if she has any exciting plans.
• Offer a Casual Invitation: Suggest a low-pressure activity, like grabbing coffee or going for a walk, to spend more time together.
• Keep the Conversation Balanced: Share a bit about yourself to make the conversation two-sided and prevent it from feeling like an interrogation. 
• Comments should follow answers, not more questions: Women quickly get bored if they have to answer question after question. So if you ask what her hobby is and she tells you, comment on what she said by either sharing your thoughts on that hobby or an experience you had with it. 
• End on a Positive Note: Conclude the interaction with a positive comment or expression of interest in talking again. Always leave on a high, preferably when the conversation is going great. 

What to say to a girl you like to make her smile

If you wonder what to say to a girl you like to make her smile, here are some suggestions:

• Give a Genuine Compliment: Tell her sincerely what you appreciate about her appearance or personality.
• Share a Lighthearted Joke: Make her laugh with a playful and light-hearted joke or witty comment.
• Express Interest in Her Day: Ask about her day and show genuine curiosity about what she has been up to.
• Reminisce About Shared Moments: Bring up positive memories or shared experiences to create a sense of connection.
• Offer a Thoughtful Gesture: Small, thoughtful gestures like bringing her favourite snack or mentioning you’d like to do just that can bring a smile to her face.
• Send a Sweet Text Message: Drop a text expressing how you’re thinking about her and hoping she has a great day.
• Use Humor to Compliment: Compliment her with a touch of humour, making the complimenting light and enjoyable.
• Share a Funny Story: Entertain her with a funny or clever story from your own experiences.
• Be Playful and Tease Gently: Light teasing with a playful tone can create a fun and flirtatious atmosphere.
• Express Appreciation: Simply tell her that you appreciate having her in your life and enjoy spending time with her.

What not to say to a girl you like

• Insensitive Comments: Avoid making insensitive remarks about her appearance, abilities, or personal choices. Negative comments can be hurtful and create a negative impression.
• Comparisons to Others: Refrain from comparing her to other people, especially in a negative light. Such comparisons can be hurtful and breed insecurity.
• Pressure for Intimacy: Don’t pressure her into any form of physical or emotional intimacy. Respect her boundaries and ensure that any progression in the relationship is consensual.
• Negative Self-Talk: Avoid excessive self-deprecation or negative talk about yourself. While some self-disclosure is normal, constant negativity can be draining.
• Assumptions about the Future: Steer clear of making assumptions about a future together too soon. It can be overwhelming and may create unnecessary pressure.
• Intrusive Questions: Don’t ask overly personal or intrusive questions, especially early in the relationship. Respect her privacy and let the conversation unfold naturally.
• Political or Controversial Topics: Be cautious about delving into highly polarizing or controversial topics, especially if you’re unsure of her views. These discussions can quickly become tense.
• Excessive Compliments: While compliments are good, too many can come across as insincere or even creepy. Be genuine and moderate in expressing admiration.
• Talking About Exes: Avoid discussing past relationships in detail, especially if it involves negative or emotional aspects. This can create unnecessary discomfort.
• Overbearing Declarations of Feelings: While it’s okay to express your interest, declarations of intense feelings too early can be overwhelming. Let the relationship develop naturally.

FAQ 

How do I start a conversation with a girl I like without feeling nervous?

One way you can approach this is by playing the vulnerability card. You tell her how nervous you feel talking to her because you find her attractive. This is pretty effective because it is sincere (an important element in being convincing) and also helps manage her expectations of the conversation which gives you wiggle room. She would be more forgiving of the awkward pauses and badly timed jokes. 

What are some good topics to talk about with a girl I have a crush on?

Keep it light. Your conversation should revolve around entertainment and fun activities such as her favourite movies, TV shows, music, hobbies, hangout spots, etc. Then you may want to try to seek out some of her deep-lying desires by asking her about the adventurous things she would like to try. Skydiving, escape rooms, desert or ocean, beach or jungle house, etc. These are sort of convos that provide you great insight on how to make her happy in the future. 

How can I show interest in her without coming on too strong?

The key is to employ a contrast that makes you a subject of interest. You can say the most sensual and direct things while maintaining an aloof demeanour and vice versa. That way your intentions are obvious enough, yet it leaves enough room for interpretation that you keep her on her toes. 

What are some effective ways to compliment a girl I’m interested in?

Think about what attracted you to her in the first place. Is it her eyes, wit, slender figure, lips, personality, feet (coughs), whatever it is, that is what you compliment. On the one hand, your compliments would be sincere, on the other hand, she knows it is true hence you come across as genuine. 

How do I handle rejection if she doesn’t seem interested in talking?

You have to take rejection with a smile on your face like a champ. In many cases, rejections like this just mean not now. You should not throw a fit or burn bridges as things can turn around pretty quickly in the affairs of men and women. 

Final Thoughts 

As much as what you say to a girl you like is important, how you say it is equally crucial. I would even argue that your body language, tone of voice, and timing are collectively more important. Pay attention to her body language and non-verbal cues to gauge her comfort level while adjusting yours carefully to send the right message.